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Therapy Writing and Family Drama

I’ve probably said this before, but I’ll say it again: writing is SO therapeutic.

Seriously. If you’ve never tried it before grab a journal and just dump out all the ick from inside you. You’ll be surprised at how amazing you feel afterward.

So why am I gushing about this?

I’m getting there, but first, some quick backstory. (Stick with me. I have a point, promise!)

My family—as with most these days—is dysfunctional. And this year has been one of those years where I seem to be more jaded by family than in years past. When the holiday season began to creep up, I made some tough decisions in regards to the people I surrounded myself with for Thanksgiving and the upcoming Christmas season.

I made these decisions based on the need for emotional balance. I’ve been teetering on the cliff quite often lately, and have to put myself first. Otherwise, I’ll end up collapsing (again) and can’t have that. My husband and daughter don’t deserve that either.

What does that have to do with writing?

Because the character in my current work-in-progress has a close-knit family and I have no idea how to relate! (Insert author sobbing. Just kidding! 😉 )

When it comes to writing things I’m not familiar with, I backtrack to see what I AM familiar with.

I may not know what a close relationship with blood relatives is like, but that doesn’t mean I’m without family.

One of the biggest themes that run through all of my books is building family using those who you connect with through friendships. THAT is something I’m familiar with.

Those individuals are my close knitted family even though they aren’t related to me through blood. And something that was seen around my Thanksgiving table this past week, which made it one of the Top 3 best Thanksgivings I’ve had.

Even better, all those icky feelings about family aren’t being stored up. I’ve been purging them out and into my current project. And while this project may never hit the mainstream, I’m maintaining my emotional balance, which is another excellent bonus. 😉

Okay, I gotta run though. This project is so close to being finished. I can see the top of the mountain … must keep climbing!

Until next time, adventures!

 

Do you write or journal? What themes do you see popping up in your stories?

4 Comments

  1. Liv K. Fisher on November 28, 2017 at 4:08 am

    I’m so sorry you’ve felt so out-of-balance lately, Desiree! *hugs* I totally get it, though; the holidays are pretty stressful at our house when our extended family arrives (yay for weird families! 😛 ).

    Congratulations on being so close to the end of your project! *cheers and waves flag* You go, girl! <3

    • Desiree Williams on November 29, 2017 at 1:56 am

      LOL, yes, weird families can be a blessing. =D Thanks so much for your hugs and well wishes as I tackle this book project! <3 You. Are. Awesome!

  2. Laura A. Grace on November 30, 2017 at 2:02 am

    Thank you for being so transparent, Desiree! I needed this, friend. <3 Also, I have found writing very therapeutic for me as well. It's been freeing just the little bit I have written. 🙂 Blessings to you! 😀

    • Desiree Williams on December 4, 2017 at 11:09 pm

      I’m so excited that you’re writing! And glad that this was a timely post for both of us. <3 Blessings right back to you!

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