We are kicking off our Month of Power in today’s post on Overcoming Negativity. (If you have no idea what I’m talking about then feel free to swing by the intro post from last week.)
First, we’ll start by taking several deep breaths. Go ahead. Inhale. Exhale.
Now, let’s take a look the sludge going on inside of us. Negativity grows in power when we listen to lies we tell ourselves.
Did you catch that?
I’m not focusing on the lies others tell us, but the one’s we tell ourselves. That is where negativity gets its most leverage.
We can be our own worst enemies. In turn, we can lead ourselves into defeat before the battle even begins.
So what should we do?
When Lie begins to whisper its fantastical tales, introduce it to Truth.
For me, there is no greater truth than the Word of God. If that’s not your jam, I understand. But I encourage you to keep reading as the root of this exercise could still benefit you.
Lie: I’m worthless.
This can also apply to the lie of not being pretty or being fat, or just down right being awful. The goal of this lie is to lessen our value in the purpose of our life. To deface our worth in who we are. To persuade us that we are meaningless.
When we listen to this lie, we convince ourselves we are unlovable.
Truth: I’m treasured and valued.
Psalm 139:13-14 tells us that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made”. Genesis 1:26 even tells us that we’re made in the image of God.
So if I’m made in the image of God and I can myself ugly, does that mean I’m calling God ugly too? <– Go ahead and chuckle. 😉
Luke 12:7 (NKJV) But the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Do not fear therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.
Isaiah 43:1 (NKJV) But now, thus says the LORD, who created you, O Jacob, And He who formed you, O Israel: “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by your name; You are Mine.”
I don’t know about you, but my heart warms with purpose and promise at the thought of God claiming me as His child. When I read Isaiah 43: 1, I like to put my own name into the verse. Through this verse I know that God created me, He formed me, and I am His.
With this truth, I have the confidence to know I AM lovable. I am NOT worthless. I am valued just as I am.
Lie: The work I do doesn’t matter. It’s pointless.
I’m sad to confess this is a lie I’ve told myself often in the past. And it’s a lie a lot of creatives tell themselves. Mostly because the business we work in is hard and it takes quite a bit of perseverance to make it.
The goal of this lie is to stop us from claiming the fruits of our labor. This lie stunts our growth from becoming the fierce warriors we’re destined to become. Because when the lies of doubt (such as this one) take root we aren’t able to stand strong in battle. We’re then easily defeated and surpassed.
Essentially this lie steals our blessings and the blessings of others who could be touched by our works.
Truth: I was made to do great things.
One of my favorite verses in the Bible is Jeremiah 1:5. The reason being: it reminds me that I was created to do something amazing. I was formed and born to leave my unique mark on this world.
Jeremiah 1: 5 (NKJV) “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; before you were born I sanctified you; I ordained you a prophet to the nations.”
Yes, I again put myself into this. And you should too. YOU were formed, set apart, and appointed to do something specific in this world. YOU were called and assigned talents to fulfill a great purpose.
That’s powerful stuff.
But the root of doubt, the root of the lie we tell ourselves, is fear. I encourage you to place that fear at the feet of Jesus and let Him comfort you and give you strength. You were not given a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind (ref. 2 Timothy 1:7).
Psalm 94: 19 (NKJV) “In the multitude of my anxieties within me, Your comforts delight my soul.”
1 Peter 5: 6-7 (NKJV) “Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.”
Lie: No one cares about me.
Now, this lie parallels with the ones above regarding our self-worth. However, the goal of this lie is to separate us from our allies. To separate us from potential sources of encouragement and convince us that we are alone in this world.
We are as alone as we allow ourselves to be.
We were never meant to face this war alone. There are battle buddies ready to take up arms to fight alongside us.
But this lie convinces us to not get them involved, that we mean nothing to those closest to us.
Truth: I need to let my spouse/ family/ friend see me.
As someone who battles with depression, I encourage you to be seen. Our spouses/ family/ friends aren’t mind readers—despite the stories we read telling us otherwise. They will not know we are struggling if we never tell them.
I remind myself often to have the courage to open up and to admit that no, I’m not okay.
And you know what? There’s nothing wrong with being broken. There’s nothing wrong with asking for help.
You may even think to yourself, “there’s no one I can trust”, but that’s another lie. There is always someone nearby that you can confide in. Be brave, it’s okay to let them see your pain.
Isaiah 41: 10 (NKJV) “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.”
Revelation 21: 4 (NKJV) “And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away.”
Proverbs 17:17 (NKJV) “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”
Ecclesiastes 4: 9-10 (NKJV) “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up.”
Lie: I’ll never be successful like him/her.
Comparison will kill your dreams.
I repeat. Comparison will be THE DEATH OF YOUR DREAMS!
As you can tell, I have a deep loathing for this lie as so many beautiful individuals fall into its trap.
This lie focuses on the “highlight reel” of other people’s lives and success, and it conveniently conceals the pain and struggles those individuals went through to obtain those high moments.
The definition of success is different for everyone.
Truth: My journey is different, unique, and crafted to fit me.
Similar to the truths above, we were made to do great things, but we weren’t made to do them the same as Sally Sue down the road. Each of our fingerprints is unique and only identifiable to us for a reason.
However, the root of the comparison lie falls into two categories:
- Jealousy over an individual who should be our friend.
- Life is too short to be at war with like-minded Instead, let’s link arms and fight together, lifting one another up. If you can’t be happy for something good happening to a colleague, would you truly be satisfied when good things happened to you?
- Self-doubt; that we can, in fact, achieve the goals we set for ourselves.
- Go back and read through the truths regarding Lie #1 and Lie #2. YOU are worthy. YOU were made to do amazing things. Your value and purpose in life are not measured by society’s definition of success.
I’ll be speaking more on perseverance later in this series, but for now, let’s speak truth against the lie of comparison and jealousy.
Ecclesiastes 4:4 (NKJV) “Again, I saw that for all toil and every skillful work a man is envied by his neighbor. This also is vanity and grasping for the wind.”
Proverbs 14: 30 (NKJV) “A sound heart is life to the body, but envy is rottenness to the bones.”
Galatians 6: 9 (NKJV) “And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.”
Philippians 4:13 (NKJV) “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
Whew! If you stuck with me through all of that, THANK YOU! And *big hugs*
Now that we know the truth to combat the lies, how do we effectively use this information?
Each time you begin to feel any of these lies creep in, or those we haven’t covered, speak truth over it. Or slap it, or give it a clean right hook. Whatever you favor.
Got a few lies bouncing around not covered above? Check out this worksheet I created to aid in your very own fight session. (I also included the Lies and Truths we chatted about here on today’s post.)
Remember: You are amazing, and may truth empower the warrior I know is within you.
If you need help digging up scriptures to combat the lies, then be sure to reach out. Please take heart, you are not alone. I’d be honored to work through the exercise with you if you’d like. Feel free to get in touch with me through my contact form, or message me on social media via the links at the top right.
Next week we’ll be diving into our next fuel source in the fight against negativity—LOVE. And NOT the romance kind. This post you won’t want to miss.